Sex on campuses
In the past I have not felt safe when it comes to sex, but right at this present moment I do.I think most people assume everyone else is having sex, but I don't think that's the case. I do not think the women on my campus are sexually empowered; to me it feels like the men control everything.There is a sexual assault problem at parties or when people are drinking, but on a daily basis I feel very safe on campus when it comes to sex.I feel like a lot of people are having sex but certainly not everyone is doing it. It's typical to talk about "sexual freedom." But it's hard to practice my own sexual freedom when it swings hard in the other direction.Are young women taking on a traditional ‘male’ view of sex? She is an accomplished scholar and award-winning teacher with degrees in philosophy, human sexuality, and sociology.Is commercialism monopolizing their―and our―imaginations? Is hooking up a way of shutting down―and discrediting―genuine emotional connections? There's a lot more freedom to do your own thing and no one is pressuring anyone to be sexually active. Females who try to be, or who are seen as having lots of sex, are considered sluts, while men are expected to have all sex all the time. It's hard enough to find a party that doesn't end in drunken debauchery. At least, that's how it feels, despite what the statistics say. I could hook up with another girl and no one would blink an eye (probably some people would have their suspicions confirmed).
Working with young people myself, I see what Lisa Wade describes every day.
I haven't heard of sexual assault on campus and would be surprised if I heard of one.
Generally, the women on my campus seem to be sexually empowered and there is the general notion that sex is not something to shame anyone for having or not having.
This is an extraordinary and important book.” - Rosalind Wiseman, author of “In this fascinating book, Wade shines the bright light of sociology and feminism onto American college sexual culture, exploring both its positive and its bleakest aspects.
An intelligent, sympathetic, and unflinching analysis of hookup culture, interweaved with intimate narratives from those living in it.” - Cordelia Fine, author of “An urgently needed and well-researched front-line report on ‘hookup culture.’ … Read it and pass the word.” - Arlie Hochschild, author of Lisa Wade, Ph D, is a professor at Occidental College.
They can sometimes become aggressive if you tell them you don't want to go very far because they believe that they are "owed" sexual favors and that it was their "impression" that you were going to have sex with them.